Marriage involves the union of two individuals who decide to live in an intimate relationship for the major portion of their life. It is said to be one of the deepest and most complex froms of human relationships. Landis (1954) observes, "Marriage and family are Not optional; they are necessary, even in today's world as it solidifies a healthy working relationship; just as any good business or company. They meet humanity's deepest needs" It provides for the reliable satisfaction of certain vital personal needs." It provides for the reliable satisfaction of certain vital needs both physical and psychological. But a good marriage does not simply happen, not even when choice of marriage partner is most carefully made. It has to be worked out jointly (Kumar,1986). The process of changing two single Lives into one shared life requires a great deal of mutual commitment and accommodation (Locke & Williamson,1958). One is required to develop a proper attitude, skill and temperament to be successful in marriage. Ruch (1970) rightly says that being the right person is more a matter of becoming the right person. The ease in becoming the right person to a great extent depends on the attitude one holds towards marriage (Srivastav,1974).

The new familism has emerged in postindustrial and services societies, which tend basically to satisfy the needs of personal realization. Many authors have labeled this new culture as hedonistic and narcissistic; some authors consider it a radical individualism (Seoane 1993).

The development in the 1970s of new forms of marriage, different from the traditional civil and religious forms, the rise of the divorce rates, and the decline in birth rates are clear examples of this new culture. Paternal authority, strict family morality, obligations to family members, and the sexual division of the domestic work were replaced by the principle of equality, the relaxation of traditional moral values, and the family opening to the new, opportunistic, outside-the-box world.

At the beginning of the 1980s, a turn to family values is evident (Inglehart 1998). However, this new familism is full of ambiguities. On the one hand, it means the resurgence of the family as an important force. At the same time, it supports an individualistic and narcissistic conception of the family relationships. The current importance given to the family is related to a defense of its affective and emotional functions and its help for personal development. From this new familism, the family group is used as a resource to satisfy the psychological needs of its members (Demo et a1. 2000).

The new familism moves away from the political and social context from which it originated. It can be considered as a psychologized familism, because it answers the concrete needs of personal and individual realization. This familism moves away from the traditional cultural pattern, in which the family was more important than the goals and aspirations of its members, and from the traditional definition of familism.

From the point of view of psychological needs, the ambiguity of the new familism allows very different family politics. Although some approaches defend alternative ways of families, other writers turn to the new familism to stop the advance of a radical individualism, or even to compensate the setback of the state of families' well-being (Popenoe 1988; Garzón 1998, 2000).


Information from :
http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/relationships/the-new-marriage-attitude-i-will-eventually/article4102164/
http://family.jrank.org/pages/483/Familism-New-Familism.html

When you first graduate from college, your primary focus is getting your foot in the door and some work experience under your belt – just as it should be! But as you grow your resume, it’s important to start examining the positions you’re taking and the industry you’re working in to make sure if it’s really right for you.  Just like in dating, sometimes you have to see what’s out there and try different things to get a sense of what you really want.

 So how can you tell?   . . .  You know it’s the right career if …

You Wake Up Before Your Alarm
If you find yourself waking up before your alarm, ready to get to work and tackle the day, that’s a good sign that you’re on the right career path. If, on the other hand, you find yourself stressed about work, unable to sleep, and groggy in the morning, you might want to rethink your career direction.

You Feel Energized at the End of the Day
When you’re in a career that’s a good match for you, you’ll feel energized and motivated by the work you do. Sure, you might be tired after a long day, but you shouldn’t feel completely drained or depleted. (If you do, that could be a hint that you’re burning out.)

You Get Lost in Your Work
Have you ever been working on something so engrossing that you sit down at your desk, only to glance up at the clock and realize two or three hours have passed? That means you’re in a career or position that’s engaging all of your brainpower and talents. .

You Love to Talk About Your Work
If you’re completely passionate about your work, you’ll love to talk about it with family and friends … almost to the point that they want you to stop.  So try to keep it in check, but also realize your exuberance is a sign that you’ve found your calling.

It’s Not Just The Company
Of course you want to work at a company with a great purpose, an awesome leadership team, and a method for recognizing and developing employees. But you want to be careful that what you love about your job isn’t just the organization, it’s what you’re doing in the organization. If you can see yourself doing your job anywhere no matter what the circumstances, that’s another way to tell if you’ve found the right career.

It can take awhile to find the right career fit, and most professionals will tell you that they tried on many different titles and hats before it finally happened to them.  Hang in there, be patient, and above all else, listen to your gut—once you’re in the right position, you’ll know it.

Information from :
http://myfootpath.com/mypathfinder/fiding-right-career/

When did you know you had found the right career?
What was your “Aha!” moment?
.... Please let me know by commenting below!

Problem gambling is infrequent (generally affecting less than 1 per cent of the population), but can have tremendous ramifications on one’s financial, emotional and family lives when it does exist. It’s an urge that individuals have to engage in repeat gambling behaviours despite continuing negative consequences.  The main measure of whether someone has a gambling problem is not the frequency of the behaviour, but rather the negative effects on his or her overall quality of life.

Individuals with significant issues may in fact gamble infrequently (conversely, someone could feasibly gamble relatively frequently with little to no negative impact). Although it is not a very prudent way to supplement income, it could be that he is gambling for extra cash with little to no negative effects on any other parts of his life.

Think about whether your friend is having financial issues. Is he unable to meet his financial obligations or pay his bills? Is he overextending himself on credit cards or lines of credit? Is he borrowing money from friends to maintain his gambling habit?

From an emotional perspective, is your friend demonstrating low, depressed mood, or continuing anxiety or chronic stress? Are his personal relationships suffering? Is he opting to gamble at the expense of maintaining relationships? If he has a partner, is the partner concerned about his behaviour?

The answers to these questions can help you determine whether you should approach your friend. If you answer yes to any of them, you may want to consider having a conversation with him. The manner in which you approach your friend is going to depend on a number of factors, including the nature of the relationship the two of you have, as well as how open you think your friend may be to what he may initially perceive as criticism or judgment.

Start by educating yourself on problem gambling. The Responsible Gambling Council has a number of useful resources for individuals and loved ones of someone who may be struggling with a gambling problem.

Then pick an appropriate time to talk. It would be ideal if you could have the conversation at a time when your friend expresses some regret or refers to a negative impact of his gambling. Remain non-judgmental and supportive in your tone and language. Be mindful not to attack him personally. Express that you care about your friend and that you are worried about him. Then specifically and objectively identify some of the behaviours or negative ramifications you have seen. If possible, use his own words (“Last week you said you were really worried about making this month’s rent because of how much you had lost the previous weekend.”).

Listen to what your friend has to say. Despite your urge to want to help, do not attempt to “solve” his problems for him. Giving advice will likely make him defensive. Instead, ask him what he thinks would be helpful, and offer to support him by getting more information or seeking external assistance. Throughout this process, make sure to take care of yourself. Remind yourself that your friend has to be at a place to admit he needs help and be willing to take steps to change, and that your role as a friend is to remain non-judgmental and supportive.

Information from :
http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/health/ask-a-health-expert/ask-a-psychologist/help-i-think-my-friend-has-a-gambling-problem/article2445805/
http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/health/new-health/conditions/addiction/experts-warn-against-government-backed-online-gambling/article2027658/
www.responsiblegambling.org/